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How Do You Share Your Big News?
By CoffeeMom | November 6, 2009
As a blogger, I’ve pretty well put my life out there for the world to see. I’ve made grand announcements – shared deeply personal struggles – spouted my opinions about hot topics.
And I find myself at a total loss right now.
I just recently discovered that my husband and I are expecting our 3rd baby – due in July 2010. This is big news for us – and we’re excited. We’ve shared it with family and friends – but I’m finding myself hesitant to share it with a lot of other people I know.
A. We’re still pretty early on in the pregnancy. While everything is okay so far – we always look at the 10 week mark as a benchmark before telling everyone.
B. My age and health put me at higher risk. I’ve been pretty excited about my 40th birthday – which is only a month away – and now that I’m pregnant, I’m extremely aware of the higher risks and complications that occur due to age and health. I had gestational diabetes with my last pregnancy and I’m already very aware of the food I’m putting in my mouth and my level of activity – even at this early stage.
C. I would like to avoid negative comments. Yep – just like most pregnant women, my pregnancy is my business – but it still hurts when someone is critical or just downright mean about the fact that I am pregnant. I’m married, I have 2 kids, and while we’ve had a lot of stress in our lives lately – God’s timing is all over this so I’m not going to question His plan for me. But that doesn’t mean I’m not sensitive to unkind comments and I think a part of me is feeling a bit self-protective at the moment.
So How Do YOU announce your pregnancy? How do you decide who to tell and when? How do you deal with critical comments?
I’m curious because I know there are lots of pregnant women out there in similar circumstances and I’d really like some feedback!
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Topics: Announcements, Faith Talk | 7 Comments »
November 6th, 2009 at 8:44 am
I can’t imagine why anyone would want to make a negative comment about you being pregnant. It’s a great blessing and people should be happy for you!
I’m happy for you. This is so exciting! Congratulations!
November 6th, 2009 at 9:17 am
Thanks, Heather! It’s kinda like people wanting to rub a pregnant belly without asking, I guess. Just everybody wanting to give their 2 cents and be involved. But – I know it happens often and I think some people are creative in their responses – so I’m anxious to hear from others. =)
November 7th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
Can’t question God! huh~ [Most of hollywood just starts having kids at your age]. I imagine you must be in shock though! It is a blessing & a gift. In the midst of this chaotic world God decided to give you a sweet new bundle of lovin’. He must like the way you mama. =) Congrats!~ you are in my prayers kiddo.
November 10th, 2009 at 1:39 pm
I understand the negative feed back. When I became pregnant with my forth child I did not want to tell anyone. I got comments like, don’t you know how that happens? I had to make myself not take everything so personal and just enjoy the fact that God gave me a bundle of joy! My husband and I could not picture life without our two year old boy.
I encourage you to ask God to embrace you when someone gives you a negative response, so that it may not hurt as bad. You are right that Gods timing is everything. He wants this child here for a reason and he has chosen you and your husband to parent this little person. What an honor! You can do this! I pray that God gives you the strength and health you need to carry this baby to full term. God bless and good luck!
November 10th, 2009 at 4:04 pm
Hi I’m new to the blog world and kind of stumbled upon your blog. I’m glad I did…
I was in a similar circumstance with my third child. He was an unexpected blessing and the Dr’s didn’t know if my body would be able to carry another child. It is easy to get in fear of the unknown. However, 2 Tim 1:7 says, ” For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” Don’t let people rob you of the joy of being pregnant and carrying this little life on the inside of you. Stand firm on Gods word. The LORD rebukes the devourer for your sake and your vine will NOT cast its fruit (your baby) before its time in the field and because you are His and He is yours with all of His benefits.(Malachi 3:11) He gave you this precious little one with plans for a mighty, hopeful future and, for those plans to come to pass, this little one has to be born healthy and in HIS perfect time and that is simply what will be.
Be encouraged….The best is YET to come!!!
God Bless!
November 11th, 2009 at 1:44 am
Hi Debbie I hope you are over the initial shock! It is only a blessing! Enjoy! As a mom over 40 with a baby of 10 months I can’t imagine how my life would have been now without the little one!
November 11th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
Congrats on being prego. It always exciting!
When I got pregnant for the 1st and 2nd time I was very excited to tell my family. After baby #2 everyone drove me crazy about getting my tubes tied, which I did not want to do. 2 years later when I found out I was pregnant again, I did not want to say anything because I did not want anyone to ruin my joy.
My son felt the need to let the family know. LOL My mother was the worst of them all, with comments like have you never heard of birth control? or I sure hope you do not have any more after this one.
That really crushed me becuase I was very excited about being pregnant and the new additions to our family.
When I got pregnant last Jan. with baby #5, I told no one but my husband for the fear of the comments. I felt like it was no ones business but mine and my husband and I wanted to enjoy being pregnant and could care less what anyone said.
When I was 4 months pregnant I told my cousin over the phone. Even though the phone got silent and I thought she passed out from the news, she was quick to say congrats and offered a shoulder to cry on, you could say.
At 5 months when I got sick, sleepy and very cranky everyone wanted to know what was wrong with me. Not to mention my tummy was getting very round. I finally broke down and told my family.
They all gave me heck about it. BAD, even drove me nuts with each OB appointment asking if I signed paperwork to get my tubes tied.
I found it very rude and honestly figured if they did not want to share in my joy, they could just stay away.
So, to you my new found friend, I would not worry about what anyone has to say. It is your body, your life and your decision. If you are happy, then everyone should be happy for you!