Do you remember dating when you were in high school or college? Do you remember dating your husband? Do you remember how much fun it was to do different things? Did it seem like you never ran out of ideas or reasons to go out? Did your dates go out the window when you got married?
So you still went out on dates after you got married, but maybe date night disappeared after you had children. It’s not their fault – kids need a lot of time and attention. But so does marriage!
You still need to get out and do things on a regular basis with your husband. When you do this, you can forget – even just for a few moments – about the things adults must remember. These things can include bills, your job, and other stresses that you may have in your life.
Going out on a date at least once a month is healthy for your marriage. There are so many things you can do to have fun. Some require money while others may be free. The important thing to remember is you need to get out of the house and do something. If it’s possible, you should get out of the house when you do your date night, but it’s not always possible so find a way to “Make Do.”
If it’s been awhile since you’ve been able to go out on a date, it can be hard to think of things to do on your date night, so here are some suggestions.
1. Go out for dinner and a movie.
2. Play Miniature Golf!
3. Attend a Concert together.
4. Go away for one night and stay at a nice hotel or bed & breakfast.
5. Visit a nature preserve and take a walk or go hiking.
6. Go on a picnic or have a picnic on the living room floor after the kids go to bed.
7. Go to your county or state fair and share a corn dog or elephant ear.
8. Go to a park and ride bikes or fly kites
9. Get together for a Bible study with other couples.
10. Share an ice cream sundae .
11. Go fishing and watch the sun set over the water.
12. Take dance lessons together
13. Visit a local cafe and get your favorite coffee and share dessert.
Just because you are married doesn’t mean you can’t and shouldn’t go out. It’s important to spend time together, just the two of you. You need to get away from all the hussle and bussle of everyday life and have some fun every once and a while.
You don’t have to spend a lot of money to enjoy spending time with each other. Take time to get dressed up and wear one of your hubby’s favorite outfits or his favorite perfume. And if you can’t manage more than 15 minutes alone together, why not just surprise him with a Make-Out Session?
Sheila’s Wifey Wednesday Post today has some great encouragement for adding intimacy to your marriage, too.
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Great points! We often do the “late date” at home after the kids go to bed and have a nice dinner or play games, etc.
Something we like to do after eating out instead of going to a movie (because that can be expensive and it doesn’t allow for talking)… we like to go to a coffee shop and get a drink and we take a game with us. We can sit there for a looong time and no one cares and all it costs us is a drink.
“This is ridiculous! Why don’t we do that more often?” – That’s how I felt while reading your post. Which is a good thing because I’ve been convicted by the Holy Spirit to do what I know needs to be done. He used you and I’m glad. Those are wonderful ideas. I’ll start this month. Thanks.
Great post! I think you’re right–we do neglect our couplehood when kids arrive.
My husband and I took ballroom dancing lessons for a few years, and it was ever so much fun. It was hard to convince him, but once he went he had a really good time (and realized what the benefits were later on that night
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These are some great things to do. My husband is gone all week on business so this looks like a great weekend for some of this. Thanks
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thanks for posting this, belive it or not i googled ‘how to go on a date with your husband”. this was the first thing that came up.
this made me feel so much better. my kids are less than two years apart ( 21 months) and life has been crazy the past year. my second had reflux and cried and whined the better part of her first year. if my dear parents had not taken the kids and let my husband and i be alone together i do not know how we would have made it.
time alone with your spouse is something that has to happen, maybe not fancy dates or anything. but i love nothing more than to snuggle on the couch and watch a movie together, or read a book while sitting next to the man of my dreams.